Image... does it matter?
Image is important nowadays. Everyone wants to be everyone but themselves. Why? Why are we hiding from ourselves. Forcing "us" to be "them". It boggles my mind daily. I see beautiful, young women attempting to be what they see on t.v.
Heck I use to be one of them.
The year was 1997 and the hit single "No, no,no,no,no" was blasting on every radio station. Destiny's Child was starting their road to greatness. There I was, an impressionable 16 year old who Beyonce' slightly resembled (I'm older ;o) pecking order pets!). Whadaya know, my mom by the way could lay some braids down. Before I knew it, I had long blonde braids, a cowboy hat, fitted low rise jeans, and heels. I was extremely attractive. EVERYWHERE I went, I was constantly compared to Beyonce'. I started to live vicariously through her. By the time 1999 (spring) hit, I was a freshman at University of Houston, and lets just say... no one could tell me ANYTHING, I was indeed the 'lick'! I spent a couple more years living through this mega star. By 2001 I came into myself, and the braids had to go!
I spent years wrestling with my image until, I had no choice. I had a bad experience with a hairdresser and my hair fell completely out. I had no choice but to cut it ALL off. It wasn't baldfade short but, it was a lot shorter than what I was use to. It forced me to come into my own style and we of life. Finally, I was me. I was cute on the outside but my inner beauty was 10x's as beautiful. It then clicked...
I let Beyonce' live here life alone. The world is perfect with one her, but it is even more complete with the Radiance of ME!
We Have a Problem Ladies.
Okay... I am going to keep it real. Like it or not. We cannot be what we see on t.v. The females in the videos are not us. We should not feel like we have to wear a short skirt (showing half of our ass-ets) to be noticed by a man. Is anything left up to the imagination? Let's think about this logically. If we are putting all of our goodies on the table, what does a man have to look forward to? He saw and (in somecases) did it all on the first date. As women some of us try to bait a man in by acheiving a certain image upon meeting him. We then attempt to have him get to know us so we can some how make it work. Let's be real. Men are visual. When we as women put something out there... they are going to jump at the chance to get it. That's the way it was meant to happen. How can we change? I am glad you asked!
Being True to You
Ladies! Love yourself. You can be sexy and confident. Go ahead, show a respectable amount of your favorite features! Just maintain your ladylike qualities. There is a difference between LadyCity and Hoesville. Make sure you know the difference and conduct yourself accordantly.
Think about it. Do you want to be known as the classy lady in the Joe video, or the girl shaking it fast in the Nelly Tipdrill video? Two vastly different images. Which suits you?
The End.
~Imageandheartareeverything!~
Heck I use to be one of them.
The year was 1997 and the hit single "No, no,no,no,no" was blasting on every radio station. Destiny's Child was starting their road to greatness. There I was, an impressionable 16 year old who Beyonce' slightly resembled (I'm older ;o) pecking order pets!). Whadaya know, my mom by the way could lay some braids down. Before I knew it, I had long blonde braids, a cowboy hat, fitted low rise jeans, and heels. I was extremely attractive. EVERYWHERE I went, I was constantly compared to Beyonce'. I started to live vicariously through her. By the time 1999 (spring) hit, I was a freshman at University of Houston, and lets just say... no one could tell me ANYTHING, I was indeed the 'lick'! I spent a couple more years living through this mega star. By 2001 I came into myself, and the braids had to go!
I spent years wrestling with my image until, I had no choice. I had a bad experience with a hairdresser and my hair fell completely out. I had no choice but to cut it ALL off. It wasn't baldfade short but, it was a lot shorter than what I was use to. It forced me to come into my own style and we of life. Finally, I was me. I was cute on the outside but my inner beauty was 10x's as beautiful. It then clicked...
I let Beyonce' live here life alone. The world is perfect with one her, but it is even more complete with the Radiance of ME!
We Have a Problem Ladies.
Okay... I am going to keep it real. Like it or not. We cannot be what we see on t.v. The females in the videos are not us. We should not feel like we have to wear a short skirt (showing half of our ass-ets) to be noticed by a man. Is anything left up to the imagination? Let's think about this logically. If we are putting all of our goodies on the table, what does a man have to look forward to? He saw and (in somecases) did it all on the first date. As women some of us try to bait a man in by acheiving a certain image upon meeting him. We then attempt to have him get to know us so we can some how make it work. Let's be real. Men are visual. When we as women put something out there... they are going to jump at the chance to get it. That's the way it was meant to happen. How can we change? I am glad you asked!
Being True to You
Ladies! Love yourself. You can be sexy and confident. Go ahead, show a respectable amount of your favorite features! Just maintain your ladylike qualities. There is a difference between LadyCity and Hoesville. Make sure you know the difference and conduct yourself accordantly.
Think about it. Do you want to be known as the classy lady in the Joe video, or the girl shaking it fast in the Nelly Tipdrill video? Two vastly different images. Which suits you?
The End.
~Imageandheartareeverything!~
posted by CRay at 1:27:00 AM
3 Comments:
PREACH!!! As one of the often mythical "good men" left in the world, I will attest that everything you have said here is the GOSPEL. We men are extremely visual, and like you said, if nothing is left to the imagination, in essence allowing the finish line to also be the starting line, there is honestly no reason to even race. Maybe that wasn't the best analogy, but hopefully it made a little sense.
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