Hurtless Love
I had to put this out there. I just had to post about relationships. Ours with men (a woman's perspective). We put up with sssssssssoooooooooo much from the opposite sex. Why? There has to be a hidden meaning behind it all. For years psychologists have been attempting to figure it out. Pastors have been continuously preaching about it in their sermons. Are we listening? Where does it all stem from?
Us.
Us.
Us.
You must first have complete self worth, respect, and direction in your own life before you attempt to begin a relationship with anyone. Believe me. I have been there, done that. There is no such thing as "molding" any man. It is extremely healthy to "grow" with someone, but that takes compromise (on both ends), sacrifice (both ends), and open communication (both ends).
Ladies! In the words of Maya Angelou, "When a person shows you who they are, believe them."
When the person that you are in a relationship with continues to show you that he has no respect for you or the relationship... Let Him Go. You must make a choice ladies, it is either you or him. You must first and foremost take care of yourself. This brings me to the root of the whole topic...
Ladies... spend some time soul searching. Learn more about your self. Your likes, dislikes, hopes, fears, etc. Get a hobby. Work on that business you have been attempting to start. Go back to school. Clean your house. Read a book. Work out. Do somethings to enhance your state of well being. I promise a man will come. God created Adam and Eve. You will have your time to be a Help Meet to "the" man that God created for you. Relax and wait on Him. You will know when he comes. It will be easy. For years I was brain washed to think that women "had" to struggle to keep a relationship. Life has proven the untruth of that. When you are with the person you are supposed to be with, it all makes sense.
Love doesn't hurt.
Love is patient.
Love is kind.
Love is giving.
Love is understanding.
Love lacks judgement.
Love is the unexplainable bond you share with someone you care deeply for.
My challenge to single women.
Spend a full week doing all the things you aspire to do, alone. I challenge you not to answer when that familiar guy calls or knocks at your door. Spend your week in solitude. Take a yoga class or run in the park. Go to a fancy restaurant alone, or simply have a glass of wine and good book on the patio. Nevertheless do something for YOU! Have and enjoy having "you" time. The perfect guy will come soon enough.
I also challenge you all to stop attempting to make every male you come in contact with "the one". It is OK. When "Mr. Right" comes along, beyond the shadow of a doubt, you will know, honey trust me. Enjoy meeting new and interesting people. Please do. Just appreciate the moment and stop your attempts to see any further into the future. Mr. Right will come, and when he does, he will have all the attributes you want in a man. You do not have to settle. I repeat, you do not have to settle.
All in all...
Know and understand that love doesn't hurt. We do not have to endure hurt and rejection. God didn't intend it that way. What we need to do is perfect ourselves. Once we do that, we will know which direction we should go, thus making it inevitable to meet the guy of our dreams.
Be still Ladies.
The End.
Ladiesdoyouwhenthetimeisrightsowillhebe~
Us.
Us.
Us.
You must first have complete self worth, respect, and direction in your own life before you attempt to begin a relationship with anyone. Believe me. I have been there, done that. There is no such thing as "molding" any man. It is extremely healthy to "grow" with someone, but that takes compromise (on both ends), sacrifice (both ends), and open communication (both ends).
Ladies! In the words of Maya Angelou, "When a person shows you who they are, believe them."
When the person that you are in a relationship with continues to show you that he has no respect for you or the relationship... Let Him Go. You must make a choice ladies, it is either you or him. You must first and foremost take care of yourself. This brings me to the root of the whole topic...
Ladies... spend some time soul searching. Learn more about your self. Your likes, dislikes, hopes, fears, etc. Get a hobby. Work on that business you have been attempting to start. Go back to school. Clean your house. Read a book. Work out. Do somethings to enhance your state of well being. I promise a man will come. God created Adam and Eve. You will have your time to be a Help Meet to "the" man that God created for you. Relax and wait on Him. You will know when he comes. It will be easy. For years I was brain washed to think that women "had" to struggle to keep a relationship. Life has proven the untruth of that. When you are with the person you are supposed to be with, it all makes sense.
Love doesn't hurt.
Love is patient.
Love is kind.
Love is giving.
Love is understanding.
Love lacks judgement.
Love is the unexplainable bond you share with someone you care deeply for.
My challenge to single women.
Spend a full week doing all the things you aspire to do, alone. I challenge you not to answer when that familiar guy calls or knocks at your door. Spend your week in solitude. Take a yoga class or run in the park. Go to a fancy restaurant alone, or simply have a glass of wine and good book on the patio. Nevertheless do something for YOU! Have and enjoy having "you" time. The perfect guy will come soon enough.
I also challenge you all to stop attempting to make every male you come in contact with "the one". It is OK. When "Mr. Right" comes along, beyond the shadow of a doubt, you will know, honey trust me. Enjoy meeting new and interesting people. Please do. Just appreciate the moment and stop your attempts to see any further into the future. Mr. Right will come, and when he does, he will have all the attributes you want in a man. You do not have to settle. I repeat, you do not have to settle.
All in all...
Know and understand that love doesn't hurt. We do not have to endure hurt and rejection. God didn't intend it that way. What we need to do is perfect ourselves. Once we do that, we will know which direction we should go, thus making it inevitable to meet the guy of our dreams.
Be still Ladies.
The End.
Ladiesdoyouwhenthetimeisrightsowillhebe~
posted by CRay at 8:23:00 PM
2 Comments:
CHUUCH!!! Preach!!! Though a man is supposed to "find" his wife Biblically speaking, I need to hone my skills and focus on my craft and my gifts. Thanks for clearing it up for me. Welcome back, we've missed you!!!
Good stuff as always. You know you ought to write a self-help book. lol
Ima start calling you C____ Van Zandt. LOLOLOLOLOL
yes maam, good stuff.
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