?A Woman's Completion?
I just have to pose this question to all of the faithful Hiatus readers out there. As you all know I am all into the business of Empowering Women. I mean, that's just what I do. After reviewing my life and past relationships, along with those I love and adore, I have one question for you all...
Does a woman only feel (totally) complete (with her life) when she is in a relationship?
I want you all to really think about this. I mean, let it marinate for a minute people. I am talking about feeling totally completed. I know women aspire to do things other than get married, but how important is marriage (relationships) to women? How much of the equation (in the completeness of life) does a relationship occupy?
I truly look forward to your feedback.
I spend so much time stating my opinion, it's your turn!
The End.
~Imeanthinkaboutit,doeshecompleyou?~
Does a woman only feel (totally) complete (with her life) when she is in a relationship?
I want you all to really think about this. I mean, let it marinate for a minute people. I am talking about feeling totally completed. I know women aspire to do things other than get married, but how important is marriage (relationships) to women? How much of the equation (in the completeness of life) does a relationship occupy?
I truly look forward to your feedback.
I spend so much time stating my opinion, it's your turn!
The End.
~Imeanthinkaboutit,doeshecompleyou?~
posted by CRay at 12:41:00 AM
3 Comments:
There are a few ways to look at this...I'll approach it objectively and subjectively.
Does a woman only feel (totally) complete (with her life) when she is in a relationship?
Some people have a checklist in life..
Of full mind, body, heart and soul...totally have themselves together..Check
Fabulous career..Check
Relationship with growth..Check
White picket fence...Check
2.5 kids..cute dog..Check
Enough savings to take an annual vacation..Check
I approach life subjectively knowing that my life story may or may not turn out like a fairy tale..and it really depends on what day you catch me on if I really want a relationship or not.
We've talked about this time after time, heard it on Oprah, read it in Essence..but I'll reiterate..You must first be/feel complete with yourself before entering into a relationship. Looking for a man to complete you is not the solution.
Again..subjectively..I think it's to each her own. What one woman's ideal lifestyle is like may be completely different from another.
One may truly desire the husband, kids, strong family unit..while another may strive for a career that surpasses most of her peers and prefers companionship at her leisure.
I guess the profound question and quest for my relationships are....How much of each other's shit are we willing to put up with?
Damn..just as I was ready to keep pressing through my day focused on my career and my angel kicking around in Mommy's tummy...somebody at work just had flowers delivered ...like every woman..for a split second...I wondered..'Could these be for me?'
So to answer your question..I don't even know what your ?? was anymore...Hell I like red roses..LOL
~PregnantPrincessaPouts&PressesOn~
Just a little note that I caught onto your blog from a high school friend and truly, truly love how you've grown.
Secondly, honestly, if you haven't been in a relationship for a long time like me, you do feel as if something could possibly be missing? Or at least I do sometimes. Like your friend princessa said, it does start with you. You have to ask yourself the questions: What is great about me, what do I have to bring to the table, what is it that I want in a companion? After you ask yourself these questions, you can either work on what you need to work on or realize that you are perfectly content in your current place.
Because of where I was living, I haven't had a relationship in three years, and in that time have only been on two dates. But yet I know that I'm complete. I know that it doesn't take a man to complete me, but at the same time I would like to be in one.
Dionne
Looks at Dionne: Thanks for the support dear. Keep reading! There is more to come!
Winks at Princessa: You are a HOT MESS! Hehehehe... I love you girl, don't worry, Uncle k will get you those roses LOL!
I agree with you both. I had to be a full and complete person in and of myself before I was even able to attract someone like King. Once I got myself together I was able to appreciate him. I spent 6 months without dating anyone. It was the hardest thing I had ever done, due to the fact that I have always had a boyfriend. Once I evovoled it the woman God destisned me to be... that made all the difference.
Obviously the completion starts with you. A relationship is always nice, after all, that's how God intended it to be!
~Rai~
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